Making First Date Right: Helpful Tips for Men
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Women are unpredictable beings, and even a thought about first date makes majority of men tremble either from agitation, or from fear of being unfit, or both. What line of behavior one should take? Being like a medieval chevalier, confident and benevolent master of his fiefdom, or like a man appreciating the liberties of modern society, who is treating his lady as an equal? Where is this thin line which divides goodness from awkwardness, attraction from repulsion? Here are seven useful tips, which I would like to share with you:
Tip 1: Prepare your plan of the date thoroughly. Place, time, program: all elements of your first date must be well thought. Moreover, make sure that aside from plan A, you have also plan B: just in case if she would not like something in A or, perhaps, because the meeting place will happen to be closed that day (of course, avoiding things like that is precisely the reason why I am giving you this tip). Use what you already know about her: if she is your online match, then you know her profile and you had enough chat with her to figure this out. For example, if you know that she is not a baseball fan, do not try to convince her that she is missing a great deal of fun in her life, do not take her to a stadium, take her to museum instead. Yes, museum of art would be in many cases the best setting for a first date. Beautiful objects of art, quietness and safety at the same time: what else will give you a better atmosphere for a first romantic meeting? Dont forget: she has never seen you before, so personal safety will be an issue for her (probably not the major one, but, still an issue). From the first meeting point you can move to another (cafe, restaurant, night club), but remember that the choice of the first spot is the most important one.
Tip 2: Be there in time. It is scientifically proven fact that the first 15 seconds of meeting form an opinion about a person. If you will not get there in time, you will not get even these 15 seconds! Nobody likes when someone makes them wait, especially women. They usually fill the waiting time with thinking about million of those useful things, which they could do instead of standing here and just waiting. And, it usually does not take them too long to decide that they better do these things, rather than wasting their time on that slipshod fellow who is obviously not in a hurry to meet her. Likely you will not see her again.
Tip 3: Your external appearance must be more than just spotless. I am sure you know that without me, but just let me to emphasize this fact, which is never enough to emphasize: you must look great! You better look like you just stepped from a front cover of a fashion magazine (or, at least, try to approach this state as much as you can). After spending at least two hours before mirror she wants to find signs of a similar commitment in you. So do not disappoint her: your attire, your shoes, your fragrance, even the teeth in your smile, everything will be considered over those 15 seconds, which you must win!
Tip 4: Flowers! Have you ever met women who did not like to get a gift? I have not. Women love gifts, especially diamonds. But the good news is: you do not have to bring diamonds on your first date (just save this thought in the back of your head for the future). Give her one red rose and you will give her a reason to feel that she just met a tasty and thoughtful man.
Tip 5: Be gentleman. Just keep it old-fashioned way: open doors before her, let her first to the table, pool out a chair for her, etc. If you will have a chance helping her to take off (or put on) her coat: do not miss it, this is a chance to give her a hug, a small step in the right direction. So, the bottom line: be a gentleman, do not fear to be perceived as one: even a diehard feminist will appreciate your efforts.
Tip 6: Compliments and more compliments. Women love them. First sentence after your initial greetings must be: You look great! (Fantastic, gorgeous, terrific ). And keep this tone for the rest of the evening: your effort will be appreciated!
Tip 7. Listen more, talk less. Surely she wants to know about you, but even more she wants you to know about her. So allow her to open herself, speak less, listen more. Help her with nodding and short ones, like: I see; Sure; Interesting, etc. If there will be your turn, do not talk much and by all means avoid saying anything about past wives and lovers, health issues, work problems and religion. Your task is to find a topic of common interest and help her to develop it. Show her good sense of humor and leave her to some degree intrigued about you, so there will be something to speak about at the next, and then the next, and then on the following dates, which must happen (or, at least, will be up to you) if you would follow all these tips.
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