The Controversial Pickup Artist (PUA) Loophole
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Some of the so-called "Pickup Artists" (or PUAs) out there who are good with women are not always the sort of people others would want to be friends and deal with.
What I mean by this is that some of them present themselves as ego-clashing maniac and always trying to dominate 1-up one another every time to show they are the most alpha dominant around in hope of trying to get a girl, like it is a war.
Here you have 2 lions in the same territory, they will fight each other to the death and won't work together to help each other out.
This can create a dark one-sided, unhealthy obsession, and you will find your progress with women does not give you happiness.
I mean come on, just chill, it's NOT just about getting the girls. It's about enjoying the presence of others and meeting great people you can add to your social circle who will always back you up, and the girls will naturally appear in your life.
You can be the self-absorbed, self-professed most important guy in the world when you go out...but look in the mirror? Nobody gives a $hit!
Everybody can try to show they are the commanding one in the room and the most alpha, but honestly, the thing is, nobody really cares how authoritative you behave; in fact, they might even feel repulsively threatened. So why not instead abandon your ego and make the other person feel special and let them feel their worth, and they will love you for it and you will be cool in their eyes, unlike others who are trying to compete for it out in social gatherings where people just want to relax and have fun?
You see, these aggressive ways of conducting yourself were once a way of getting things we wanted back in our ancestral time, but they no longer serve us in our modern, more civilized world. There are more boundaries that restrict these human behaviors (for instance the law, you can push it near the edge, but you can't break it) so we have to be aware and socially savvy.
Yes, that is pretty much the first thing we all learn in improving our skills with women and our dating life is to be dominant, but what is dominance?
A lot of people lack the social calibration awareness to realize what they're considered to t be dominant and confident actually come across as a control freak to being antagonistically aggressive.
A better way is to be what I called "Friendly Assertive (F.A.)""; you can still be dominant but without being so pretentious, without making the other person defensive and threatened.
I will dwell more into this in my next installment, so not only can you use it whenever you are out attracting women, but will also help you become a better leader!
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