"Just be Yourself"...Do or Don't?
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A lot of people are always asking me..."Why do I have to learn all of this?"
"Why not just be yourself?" Ah, yeah, that's a familiar one. "Just be yourself and you will get the girl!" Now the problem you need to realize with the advice of "just be yourself" is this...
If you tell dyslexic person struggling to learn how to read to just be himself and be confident, although this is great motivational ignition, the fact is he is dyslexic, and he would then forever be struggling trying to learn how to read; however, provide him the necessary tools and teach him how to employ it, and that will be his own specific tree of knowledge.
Or if you tell a newly hired inexperienced technician to just be himself, do you thing he is automatically going to be good at his job? No, he had to go to school and have gotten the proper training first and get experience under his belt.
Now for somebody who has had minimum, if not zero, success with women throughout his life, and you tell him to still be himself? Then he will forever be bad with woman, doing the same bad things continuously that his old-self has been doing and not know what to do with a woman if one was given to him, unless one day he luckily finds "The One" who falls into his lap like out of some worldly fantasy. But the chance of that is very slight, besides would you rather be in control of your dating destiny?
The exception is if you are already good with the ladies then you can be yourself, but why then search for dating advice and go through all this unnecessary bother; and you wouldn't need anybody to tell you to just be yourself...because you would already know that.
And then later this advice changed to "being your best self". What is this mean? How can you tell what is your best self? Do you just say to somebody to be "his best self" and magically he will be his best self and automatically be getting all the girls his condoms clogged his toilet?
No, it doesn't work like that. Being your best self, still implicates you are going have to work on changing yourself because your are not YET at your "best self".
So in the end, being yourself is counterproductive, if you are not already good at something. Remember as the saying goes, "If you keep doing the same thing, you will keep getting the same result."
Or Albert Einstein's definition of insanity: "Doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results."
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