Married to an Alcoholic?...6 Quick Tips To Get Them Sober
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Do you live with an alcoholic? Does their behaviour change once under the influence of alcohol? Has the mood swing behaviour reached your limit? The most intelligent thing you can do then is to stop trying to get them to give up boozing.
The nagging style just won't achieve anything except getting yourself emotionally stressed out, whereby defeating the object of actually being able to help somebody who means such much in your life. You can't get through to an alcoholic with verbal strength as it will just make the situation worse. You need to take the gentle and loving approach in order to win over the alcoholic and make some significant ground.
Be loving and supportive of the person you married, not the alcoholic. Don't take any of the emotional garbage they dish out while drinking. Have you noticed how when your spouse drinks they start to berate you and want to start arguments? Don't argue or fight back. Let them know you will not argue with them while they are drinking, period.
I guarantee you that they will be extremely persistent and will try everything in their power to break you down, but remain firm. Avoid confrontation at all times by going into a different room, going out for a walk or just putting on some headphones and listening to some music. You are the key to this and only you have the power to make them really see the problems they have.
Did you know that the person who takes the verbal abuse of an alcoholic is sometimes just as mentally and emotionally sick as the alcoholic? This is why it is absolutely necessary, especially for spouses of alcoholics, to set boundaries for themselves while the alcoholic is drinking.
The most important thing to remember when they get drunk and they start to irritate you is that you don't get emotional at all and certainly don't react to their bait, as they are just waiting for you to respond on their level. Just walk away and try to just look right through them in a vein attempt to focus on the person in them that you used to love.
Now comes a long list of DON'TS so you don't encourage their behaviour. Don't assist them to bed. Don't allow them to drive while under the influence. Don't allow them to argue with you while drunk. Ignore them and Don't be forced into anything. Don't supply them with any booze even if they get down onto their hands and knees. Under no circumstances Don't treat them with understanding and certainly do not pay them any extra attention.
When they are sober you need to do the exact opposite(except buying booze), and tell them just how much they mean to you and that you are concerned about their health. Tell them or remind them of the terrible things that you and the rest of the family have to support while they are drunk as they really do need reminding.
All these points will make life living with an alcoholic just that little bit more easier and it will aid the burden of their abuses towards you. Sadly in a way you are not alone and you can discover other peoples experiences at the stopdrinkingadvice.org blog and it will soon come to light that your world can change and your partner too.
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