How To Be Civil With The Mother-In-Law
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You have finally found your dream guy. He's handsome, has a good job, and treats you like a princess. But there is one problem - his mother. She wants to hate you. Her little boy could have anyone, why did he choose you?
There are ways to get through this tangle. Parents love their kids and would do anything for them. Just as women have the idea of their perfect mate, parents have formed images of the perfect spouses for their children. It is likely that you don't fit the bill.
Don't worry too much. Make friends within his family. Number one being your fiance. He may have a solution to the tension. He knows his mother and may understand the tension. But brace yourself. There may be an old girlfriend in his past that she especially liked.
Another friend to find in your new family are other sisters-in-law. The same thing may have happened to them. Of course, your husband will have to have a selection of married brothers for this plan to work.
If he is an only child or has only sisters, you will want to maneuver carefully. Very often if there is a sister in the family, she will probably side with the mother. You will have two people to prove yourself to if that's the case. There is still hope. It has to do with politics and people management. Use your office skills. When the woman who sits three cubicles down was passed over for the job that you got, it took all of your finesse to prevent her from super-gluing your phone together. It took ever more charm and skill to invite her onto your team, because she really does know a lot about the department. Even though she was thought to be drama by other co workers, your people skills paid off. Today she is one of your best colleagues. This technique can work with your mother-in-law, as well. How to Turn on the Finesse
First of all, get the tension to a minimum. If she's picking on you at the beauty shop. Allow her to speak. Offer her a cup of coffee. Offer her a chair. Do anything you can to make her comfortable. The worst thing that you can do in this situation is to disagree with her. If you give in, you're in control. So appease her, placate her, and be as nice as you can. Do this with anyone she may have talked about you negatively too. Eventually they will learn you're not the devil and move on.
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